Warren Farrell is an Ass, Man

Yep, that’s a butt on the cover. He put a butt on the cover. Men are oppressed by women’s butts.
You may remember the embarrassing spectacle a couple of months back when Warren Farrell asked the readers of A Voice for Men to help him pick out a cover picture for a new ebook version of The Myth of Male Power, the 21-year-old crackpot bestseller that more or less provided the, er, intellectual foundation for today’s Men’s Rights movement.
It wasn’t just embarrassing because AVFM is a noxious hate site that regularly calls women c*nts and whores and helps to organize informal campaigns of harassment directed at individual women. It was also embarrassing because all three of the pictures were sexualized images focusing on specific female body parts. You can guess which three, and you’d be right: tits, ass, and vagina (the latter tastefully covered in a merkin made of moss).
Well, Farrell ended up rejecting all of these images in favor of … a different picture of a woman’s butt. Yep, the screenshot above features the actual cover of the recently released ebook version of The Myth of Male Power. (You can see it in its full sized-glory over on Amazon.)
The implicit message of the cover couldn’t be clearer: men may seem to run the world, but women can control and exploit them through the power of their sexuality. Male power is undercut by … butt power.
Am I reading too much into a cover image? Farrell doesn’t really believe this nonsense, does he?
Well, in the introduction to the ebook, Farrell writes:
In case you’re wondering, “genetic celebrity” is Farrell’s term of art for any attractive woman.
But golly, you say, the fact that a dude feels “powerless” because he can’t have sex with every woman with a nice butt that happens to wander across his field of vision doesn’t actually mean that men are powerless or that male power is a myth. Well, Farrell has an answer to this as well. And by “answer” I mean, well, whatever this is:
Got that? I’m not sure there’s anything there to get; it’s nothing more than hand-waving to distract attention from the nonsensical nature of his previous statements. In case any Men’s Rights activist ever brings Warren Farrell up as an example of a respectable, “academic” MRA, you may wish to point out that almost nothing Farrell writes ever actually makes any fucking sense.
In the book itself, Farrell repeatedly suggested that male power can be undone almost completely by the sexual power of women. In one oft-quoted passage, he wrote about the effect that a “secretary’s miniskirt power, cleavage power and flirtation power” allegedly has on their male bosses. (Myth of Male Power, p. 21)
While that statement has earned a certain notoriety for its sheer ridiculousness, Farrell went further elsewhere in the book, essentially arguing that men are as addicted to female “beauty” as drug addicts are to the drug of their choice — and as helpless.
“Sexually, of course, the sexes aren’t equal,” Farrell wrote. “[M]any men feel ‘under the influence the moment they see a beautiful woman.” (p. 320, emphasis in original.)
This sort of temporary “intoxication,” Farrell argued, leads men into shackling themselves to these temporarily sexy tyrants for the rest of their lives — thus agreeing to support them (he suggested implicitly) even after they get old and ugly. (p. 85.)
In Farrell’s original book, this “argument,” such as it is, was merely one of many that he thought undercut the alleged “myth of male power.” Now, with the butt on the cover, he’s put it front and center. Or, more precisely, rear and center.
Warren Farrell, you’re an ass, man.
Oh, awkward segue here, I just wanted to show off the cover to the new edition of my classic book, The Myth of Human Power.
It will soon be available for one million dollars in cash in unmarked bills, upon delivery of which I will sit down and write it for you. It will probably be pretty short and not very convincing.
Posted on March 7, 2014, in a voice for men, a woman is always to blame, boner rage, butts, creepy, cuteness, evil sexy ladies, I am making a joke, imaginary backwards land, imaginary oppression, kitties, men who should not ever be with women ever, misogyny, MRA, sexualization, warren farrell, whores and tagged a voice for men, antifeminism, kittens, men's rights, misogyny, MRA, warren farrell. Bookmark the permalink. 490 Comments.
“False validation,” jfc. She offers services, her clients know what those services are and what they cost, and somehow she’s offering “false validation?” At what point is she misleading them? How? emilygoddess is right; it looks like you believe she ought to sleep with anyone who asks, as a duty.
But you just did. And have you any understanding of them? Do you actually know what they say and how they are applied, where you live? Or are you just as ignorant about them as you are about everything else?
You really are full of shite.
Cool story, bro’.
WOMEN AREN’T REWARDS, asshole. They’re people.
If you were wondering what actual objectification looks like, this is a fine example.
Um, if treating me as your equal is too high a price, that’s YOUR problem. Although I suspect you’re talking about actual financial costs, which would still be bullshit.
I just can’t with this shit. I was emotionally abused by a parent, so my childhood was often deeply lacking in things like intimacy and understanding, but I’ve managed not to turn that into a stupid conspiracy theory about how everyone in that parent’s demographic is oppressing me by making me want their love and not giving it to me. I mean, can you even hear yourself right now?
Did you tell the women that their abusers were probably just acting out because they weren’t getting the validation they needed? I bet they loved that.
And if we as a culture could move past our homophobic taboos on man-to-man displays of fondness, they could even get these things from other men.
Luzbelitx - thanks (re the curly sentence)! I was playing around with it and the sucked-into-a-black-hole bit seemed just right.
And there you have it, the order of words says what he’s really pissed off about. It’s not even the potential violence sex workers face, it’s the oh noes what about teh menz, and blaming sex workers for the violence against them.
Same old, same old. If a woman is sexually available to any given man (as sex work or not) she’s blameworthy and his violence is her fault. If she’s not available to any given man, she’s blameworthy and his violence is her fault.
Piss off budget troll, we’ve heard it all before.
What makes you think male sex workers don’t cater for women? I’ve read interviews with guys who specifically mention that yes, the women who hire them do like conversation, and these guys provide it as well as attentive sex.
These are not bad things, you titty-baby. Don’t blame women because your life sucks. That’s on you.
Are you kidding me? GTFO. Take your victim-blaming, anti-sex-worker nonsense elsewhere - and preferably stop being terrible in general.
Budmin is banned for his comments about hookergal. Fuck you, asshole.
Sorry I didn’t do it sooner; I was off the internet and only just caught up on my email.
For those who need to feel better for a moment, here are some beagles.
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The bit about “women refusing to settle down” is laughable. It sounds like we’re staying single to spite men. Because of course nobody could be settled on their own. Nobody could be perfectly happy single, whether that means having sexual partners or not.
Notice how being single is such a Great Manly Drama when it’s dudes - MGTOW - yet when it’s women, it’s just that we’re refusing to settle down.
Maybe it’s just me, but if touch and companionship is validation, women are not only not responsible for getting that for every man, but women aren’t even required for that. In fact, this sort of equating physical contact = sexual = validation has a limited demographic that even feels this way.
My boyfriend comes from a culture where touching other men is not seen as automatically homosexual, and he is very comfortable with platonic physical contact, including hugging, arms around shoulders, etc. I’m a bit amused because judging from conversations with other MRAs, they don’t realise how attractive this ability to touch and express affection without requiring some sexual component really is, and they stubbornly refuse to recognise how they can directly benefit from rejecting this toxic form of masculinity which doesn’t involve women in the slightest.
But I’m not surprised considering the other views expressed by the troll.
Thanks, David!
LOL that vacuum-beagle is the best!
Ewwww, violence troll. Not sad to have missed that dude.
Also, if all this bullshit about guys losing their minds over women is true, does this mean that gay men are imprisoning each other? Or are bi men being imprisoned by EVERYONE?
Seriously, this shit doesn’t make any sense. I guess my nubile young body made my husband briefly lose his mind, which is why we’ve been married five years. *eye roll* Power of pheromones, y’all.
In nicer news: ZOMG GUYS A TEACHER WANTS TO USE ONE OF MY STORIES FOR THEIR ENGLISH CLASS. 8D
Yay! Thank you, David!
LBT: Congratulions! That’s so cool!
I don’t think I’ve ever seen David swear at a troll before. It’s beautiful *wipes tear*
Yay, David!
Yay, LBT!
Yayyy! Celebrate!
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Damn, I didn’t get a few more chomps in on the chewtoy. Oh well…
PS: Congrats, LBT!
Aww. I go to sleep & you all kick budmins ass. Thanks everyone!
I guess I should say:
1. I work in Australia where sex work is legal & I can go to the police.
2. I’ve never had a violent client in person. Sure, I’ve had nasty texts, but I can block & delete.
3. The handful of girl I know who had to go to the police were treated fairly & clients prosecuted.
4. I saw something regarding underage girls. Ew. I refuse to see men who trawl for barely legals. Gross. The underage girl is the VICTIM and shouldn’t work.
5. As you all said, no matter a persons work, violence shouldn’t be expected. Ever.
6. The who knife/gun story. What I took is that he STOLE HER PHONE and wanted it back. Who brings a gun to a knife fight? A man who wants sex for free of a hooker. That’s who.
Anyway. I would be missed, I’m white & middle class. I work for myself & set my own rates. I’m expensive. I’m not sorry for what I do because it pays for my life while I study. And honestly, I owe nobody any explanation for my legal job. Nobody does.
But again. Thank you all
This whole “Men look for validation” stuff… even if that were universally true, wouldn’t that be OUR (i.e., men’s) fault instead of women’s?
I love how budmin’s underlying objection to sex work is that it’s bad for the male consumers. He can dress it up in as many post-hoc rationalizations as he wants, but that was the initial objection. Hookergal is “hurting” the men who pay her for sex, oh boo hoo, poor them.
And then he got to the bit where he was using that to justify them hurting her in return and it wasn’t funny any more. Hopefully by the time I reach the end of this thread I’ll find that David has done something about that comment.
And David has indeed delivered.
Hi guys!
I always feel this special happiness when I read a thread here where a troll gets chewed up and finally banned. Bye, buttmin (yeah my puns aren’t great today)!
He spent so much time here, I’m confident we’ll be visited by a sock in the near future.
@hookergal: I’m so sorry that budmin was such a flaming jerk to you, by the way. What an ass he was! Virtual hugs from me, if you’re okay with that. =)
@cassandrakitty: Yeah, good freaking riddance to budmin.
@Alex: Yeah, me too. Me too. =)
Alex, hi, good to see you!
LBT - whoot, congrats!
Also, good luck, LBT. Let us know how that goes. =)
KITTEHS! Hi! lol
LBT, that’s awesome!
weirwood, I fear you are correct.
The socks can be fun for a while … they give themselves away even when they don’t write in ALL CAPS.
/written from my house directly on the beach
@kitteh: Speaking of beaches, ever been to *Bondi* Beach, btw? If you don’t mind. =)
He’ll be back! Sadly it won’t be to save us from evil robots from the future.
alternatesteve - nope, despite pinching the line from Mikey about the house, I’m not a beach person. I’ve visited Sydney, but never gone near Bondi. It’d be kind of a waste, since I don’t swim.
Have you ever been there?
Reading some of these comments reminded me of the time in high school when this boy asked me out and several people told me I HAD TO say yes to him, or else he might shoot up the school. Strangely, that made me want to go out with him even less.
Bloody hell, Rilian.
@alternatesteve90
Hugs are always welcome. I haven’t had someone tell me I *will* die cos you know! charging men money = death! before but I shouldn’t expect less. His motivations were VERY clear after I dare state that money can buy you love. Haha.
Thanks for blocking him David.
Farrell is absolutely right. Why, every day when I go to court, I don’t even have to make any arguments. I just turn my back to the bench, lift up my skirt, and show the judge my perfectly toned, heart-shaped ass (lacy garters, belt, thong — naturally), and I WIN.
If the judge doesn’t happen to be a heterosexual male, no problem! There is good chance my opposing counsel is one, so I just lift up my skirt and wiggle my ass at him. Which immediately causes him to waive all his claims and (if applicable) drop the lawsuit, and I WIN.
If neither the judge nor opposing counsel happen to be heterosexual males, still no problem. I just lift up my skirt at the nearest court officer, and he proceeds to club the judge and opposing counsel to death. Then I WIN.
Afterwards, I go out and sit on the courthouse steps. I work up some tears, and men passing by throw money and Maseratis at me.
Piece of cake.
@ Amused be careful! Some MRA dipshit might wander in here and quote your clearly true account of using your sexual wiles against men word for word as proof of the manipulative nature of all women, because clearly feminists are incapable of humour.
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OMG LOL The ending is just classic
Jeez, I don’t know that I’d want a Maserati thrown at me. I can see bruising (me) and damaged paintwork (the car) at the very least.
I can’t help wondering what a “heart-shaped” ass looks like. All the asses I’ve ever seen were just plain ol’ butt-shaped.
Not to be graphic or anything, but if the bottom part of your ass was elongated and pointy, wouldn’t that cause some issues when you sat on a toilet? Not to mention making holes in your jeans.
Totally random, but I just ran across a picture which sums up the UK better than any other image I’ve ever seen. Behold!
http://25.media.tumblr.com/1c15a232b329c2615cc57c3681d326a1/tumblr_mkv8vxtYst1qam8b5o1_500.jpg
I mean, you wouldn’t want to queue-jump the fox, would you? That would be rude.
Exactly my point (pardon the pun). At most, it might be an inverted heart shape, if the lower back is taken into consideration. But even so, it’s quite a stretch…
“I’ve been locked inside your heart-shaped butt for weeks…”
How does a woman’s butt look like a heart? Like this (safe for work):
http://www.timtim.com/drawing/view/drawing_id/1825
Other possibilities for the heart shape include testicles, arrowheads, and an ancient abortifacient. Romantic!:
http://listverse.com/2013/02/08/10-theories-on-the-origins-of-the-valentines-heart/
However, according to Wikipedia, the medieval symbol seems to be based on medieval anatomical descriptions of the human heart and was first depicted as an upside down pine cone shape (which seems a lot better stylized depiction of the actual heart than the current symbol).
http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heart_(symbol)
This bit useless knowledge brought to you by Valentine’s Scrooge. “No, that chubby winged naked baby is neither Cupid nor a cherub.”
Winged babies of any variety are about as not-conducive-to-sexytimes as anything I can think of. Just look at Cupid spoiling the mood here. I mean, bringing the horse into the room, kid? Really?
(Actually I like that pic; the horse is adorable.)
kitteh: Aw, man, I hate when that happens!
Oh to have been a fly on the wall when Cupid got the telling-off he had coming to him.
The expression on Venus’s face is priceless.
At least, I’m assuming that’s Venus.
Venus is all “Dude! Do you mind?”
Yup, it’s Venus and Mars.
Probably a good thing we can’t see Mars’ expression.
I imagine the horse is there so Mars can flee when Vulcan gets home (I think those are the right names; I tend to think in terms of Greek mythology).
I would reckon so (yes, those are the Latin names). Hmm, maybe that’s what the kid’s saying - “Mum’s husband’s home, you’d better scram!”
Say, who was Eros/Cupid’s father, anyway?
In some versions of the myths, he’s not even Aphrodite’s son, but a primordial force (what Pratchett would call an anthropomorphic personification) who predates her. When he is considered the son of Aphrodite, his father isn’t usually mentioned.
Google says that Cupid’s father is given as either Vulcan or Mars, but again, he’s also widely considered to pre-date them.
Eros’ father’s identity may be forever unknown. But at least we know who Hermaphroditos’ father was…it says so right in his name!
Didn’t Hermaphroditos come into being because of one of those nasty literal-minded bits of wish-granting the Greek gods went in for? I read he wished to be united with his beloved, and they were - in one body.
Close! Hermaphroditos began life as a single-sexed male. Of course, being the son of Hermes and Aphrodite, he was predictably too gorgeous for his own good. A nymph named Salmacis fell madly in love with him, but was rejected. So, in desperation, she launched herself at him, wishing aloud that she could be one with him forever…and BOOM. Wish granted!
Ah! I got the result but not the rest of it right.
Curious - it does the beautiful fellers no good to say no thanks in Greek mythology, either; Narcissus is the obvious example.
Actually it doesn’t pay to be appealing at all in those tales, not with those dirtbag gods, satyrs, etc, etc, wandering around.
Yup…the “civilized” patriarchal Zeus being the worst and rapiest offender of all, ironically. Soon as he saw a pretty woman, he was all over that.
Zeus being Zeus, as soon as he saw a pretty person, he was all over that. Ganymede, anyone?
Or a pretty boy - Ganymede comes to mind.
Zeus was a complete shit. He makes Odin look morally upright.
Ninjaed!
I am undecided whether naming all of Jupiter’s satellites after Zeus’s rape victims is appropriate, or in horrible taste.
I love you man!!!!!
I doubt it was even acknowleged they were rape victims when the satellites were named. It was all “Zeus’ lovers” in every book on mythology I’ve ever read, and they were written much more recently.